- Guilt and shame
- Attachment work
- CBT and ACT methods
About Lilia
Lilia Gonzalez-Joly is a California licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with 16 years of clinical experience. She works with adults facing relationship strain, family conflict, trauma and abuse, and challenges with self-esteem and career direction. Sessions are offered in English and Spanish.
Clients meet someone who focuses on listening first and then helping them sort what matters most. She uses clear, straightforward language and encourages honest conversation about feelings like guilt or shame. Meetings are intended to be practical and respectful, with time spent on what the client wants to change.
Her approach draws on several therapy styles to match a client's needs. She may use cognitive behavioral techniques to identify unhelpful thinking and ACT ideas to clarify values and actions. Attachment-based and emotionally-focused methods are used when relationship patterns are a major concern.
Work in sessions often involves naming difficult emotions, practicing new ways of communicating, and testing small changes between meetings. Forgiveness, self-love, and life purpose are addressed as concrete topics rather than abstract goals. She also helps people struggling with guilt and shame find clearer ways to understand those feelings.
Over time she helps clients connect what matters to daily choices. People leave sessions with short, actionable steps to try between meetings. To begin the process, prospective clients follow the site’s matching steps and schedule a first appointment.
Therapeutic approaches used in online sessions
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) focuses on clarifying what matters to the client and taking small, value-driven actions. It helps when people feel stuck or torn between choices and values.Attachment-Based Therapy looks at how early relationship patterns affect current connections. It can help people who notice repeating behaviors in relationships and want different interaction patterns.
Finding the right approach is part of the work. The therapist will collaborate with clients to decide which methods fit their goals and preferences, and adjust the plan as needed. This is a joint process that starts with what the client wants to address.
The original profile does not list specific session formats, so confirm the available online formats before booking. Many people find online sessions make it easier to fit therapy into a busy week, allow shorter check-ins when needed, and remove travel time. If video is not preferred, discuss other options during the matching process so sessions can be arranged around daily life.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Therapeutic approaches
Experience
16+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English, Spanish
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does she work with?
She works with relationship problems, family conflict, trauma and abuse, self-esteem, and career questions. Additional focus areas include communication problems, forgiveness, guilt and shame, life purpose, and self-love.
How does she approach feelings of guilt or shame?
She helps clients name and understand those feelings, then uses practical steps to shift unhelpful thoughts and behaviors. Techniques come from cognitive and emotion-focused approaches tailored to the issue.
What is her professional background?
She has 16 years of professional experience working with adult clients in clinical settings. Her work combines several therapy methods to address interpersonal and personal concerns.
What are her credentials and where is she based?
She is a California licensed marriage and family therapist (CA LMFT) practicing in California. The credential listed is LMFT.
Can I work with her in Spanish?
Sessions are offered in English and Spanish. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are offered?
The original biography does not list specific session formats. Confirm current session options on the booking page before scheduling.
How does pricing work?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time. Exact fees are provided during the sign-up process.
How do I get started?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and then schedule a first session. That process begins the intake and matching steps.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.