- Relationship dynamics
- Guilt and shame
- Parenting stress
About Allan
Allan Herem is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) in California with 23 years of experience. He works with adults facing stress, anxiety, relationship strain, parenting challenges, low self-esteem, and depression. His practice also addresses issues like abandonment, attachment, caregiver stress, forgiveness, and feelings of guilt and shame.
Allan focuses on helping people name what feels wrong and talk through it. Sessions look at relationship patterns, communication habits, and how past family dynamics affect current life. He helps parents and fathers manage the pressures of caregiving and the decisions that come with separation or divorce.
He pays attention to how shame and guilt show up in daily behavior. That can mean exploring how those feelings affect intimacy, trust, and impulse control. He also supports people dealing with infidelity, commitment worries, and emptiness.
Allan uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to guide conversations and suggest practical changes. He aims to help people try different ways of communicating and coping, then notice what feels more manageable. Work is collaborative and concrete, focusing on steps a person can take between sessions.
Sessions are conducted in English. International clients are not currently accepted. Costs vary with location and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time. To begin, select the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Approaches for guilt, shame and relationship work online
Allan uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to guide sessions. One approach focuses on understanding attachment patterns - looking at how early relationships shape present fears, trust, and closeness. That work helps when guilt or shame is tied to family history or abandonment worries.Another common approach is practical communication work. This involves practicing clearer ways to say how you feel, and trying small behavioral changes to test new patterns in relationships. It is useful for conflict, infidelity, and commitment concerns.
Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. He will talk with each person about their goals and preferences, then try methods that fit those needs. Adjustments are made over time based on what is helpful in sessions and between them.
The original biography does not list specific online formats. Please confirm current session options before booking. Online work can make it easier to fit therapy into a busy life - for example, shorter check-ins between commitments, fewer travel needs, or a way to meet without rearranging daily routines. Many people find online sessions convenient for making steady progress while balancing family and work.
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Experience
23+ years
Listed in
California
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does he work with?
He works with stress, anxiety, relationship and parenting concerns, low self-esteem, and depression, plus issues such as abandonment, attachment, caregiver stress, forgiveness, and guilt and shame.
How would he approach guilt or shame?
He helps people identify how guilt and shame show up in their relationships and daily choices, then uses evidence-based techniques to try different coping and communication strategies.
What is his professional background?
He has 23 years of clinical experience as a therapist working with adults on relationship and personal concerns.
What credentials and where is he licensed?
He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, LMFT, licensed in California.
Does he offer sessions in other languages?
Sessions are offered in English.
What session formats are available?
The original biography does not specify session formats; please confirm current session options before booking.
How are costs handled?
Costs vary with location and sessions use a subscription model that can be canceled at any time.
How do I get started?
Select the See online therapy options button, complete the short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.