- Anxiety and depression
- Attachment focus
- Guilt and shame
About Nicola
Nicola (Nicki) Cartmill is a BACP counsellor in the United Kingdom with five years' practice. She works with people who feel overwhelmed by anxiety, low mood, relationship difficulties and life changes. Nicki also supports those facing grief, trauma and problems with self-esteem, addiction or impulsivity.
She focuses on practical conversations that help people name what is happening for them. Sessions tend to look at how current feelings link to relationships, past losses and unhelpful patterns. Nicki uses clear, human language and aims to make complex feelings easier to talk about.
Nicki often uses attachment-based thinking to look at how early relationships shape reactions now. She draws on emotionally-focused ideas when relationships are the main concern, and uses client-centred listening so each person leads the pace. These approaches are used together to work through issues such as abandonment, codependency, communication problems and guilt and shame.
People come to her with practical needs too - coping skills for panic, ways to manage impulsivity, or support while grieving. She also works with people exploring career direction, life purpose and parenting stresses. The focus is on helping someone notice patterns and try different ways of responding in daily life.
Nicki describes her work as grounded and straightforward. She asks questions, reflects back what she hears, and supports clients as they consider new steps. To begin she invites people to a short intake process to match goals and plan first sessions.
Approaches you may meet online
Nicola commonly draws on attachment-based ideas and emotionally-focused approaches. Attachment-based work looks at how early relationship patterns influence current reactions and helps people see repeating patterns. Emotionally-focused approaches focus on feelings between partners or in close relationships and aim to clarify emotions to improve connection.She also uses client-centred listening, which gives the client space to lead while the counsellor reflects and encourages exploration. Deciding which approach to use is collaborative. The counsellor will talk through your needs, goals and preferences and suggest next steps together rather than imposing a single method.
The biography does not list specific session formats here, so please confirm the available online options before booking. Many people choose online sessions because they can fit appointments into a workday, avoid travel time, or select a shorter check-in on busy weeks. If you are considering online work, mention what matters to you when booking so practical arrangements and approach can be agreed ahead of a first session.
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Primary focus
Also works with
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Therapeutic approaches
Experience
5+ years
Listed in
United Kingdom
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of concerns does she work with?
She works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship problems, grief, trauma, addiction, self-esteem issues and related areas such as guilt and shame.
How would she approach shame or guilt?
She uses attachment-based and emotionally-focused ideas alongside client-centred listening to help people name and understand their shame or guilt and consider new responses.
What is her professional background?
She has five years of practice and is a BACP registered counsellor working in the United Kingdom.
Where is she based and what credential does she hold?
She practices in the United Kingdom and is registered with the BACP as a counsellor.
Can I work with her if I live outside the UK?
Sessions are available to international clients; please confirm suitability and any practical arrangements before booking.
Which session formats does she offer?
The original biography does not specify session formats; please confirm current session options before booking.
How are costs handled?
Cost varies with location and sessions use a subscription that can be cancelled at any time.
How do I start working with her?
Use the See online therapy options button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule a first session.
Online talk therapy is not emergency care. If you are in danger or thinking about harming yourself, use the crisis numbers.